How I work
A paced, relational approach to integration and change
A relational, paced approach
Therapy, for me, is not primarily about insight or interpretation.
It is about how inner change unfolds in real time — in the body, in relationship, and in the choices that shape daily life. Much of the work happens beneath words, through careful attention to pacing, presence, and what is emerging moment by moment.
I work relationally, attuned to how you respond: when something tightens or withdraws, when energy lifts, when a part takes over, or when something quieter is asking to be heard. These moments often matter more than what is being talked about.
Change is supported not by pushing for clarity, but by staying with experience long enough for it to reorganise.
Working at the pace change can be lived
A central principle of my work is pacing.
Some inner experiences — particularly after periods of intensity — need to be slowed, carefully held, and metabolised over time. Rushing insight or resolution can overwhelm the system rather than support integration.
We work at the pace at which change can be lived, not just understood. This means tolerating uncertainty, incompleteness, and moments where there is no clear answer yet. It also means respecting the nervous system and the body’s capacity to integrate.
This approach prioritises sustainability over speed.
Insight, embodiment, and choice
Insight matters — but it is not the end point.
We pay close attention to how understanding meets the body, relationships, and everyday decisions. Often the work involves noticing the gap between knowing and doing, and gently exploring what is needed for choice to become available.
Rather than trying to eliminate inner conflict, we work to develop enough inner space for different parts of the psyche to be acknowledged without dominating action. Over time, this supports greater self-leadership: the capacity to respond rather than react, and to act in alignment with values even when things feel complex or uncomfortable.
Ethical responsibility and containment
Depth work carries responsibility.
I hold a strong ethical stance around containment, boundaries, and the appropriate use of therapeutic influence. This is particularly important when working with vulnerability, intensity, or material that can be destabilising if pushed too quickly.
Ethical responsibility means being attentive not only to what emerges, but to when and how it is engaged. It involves restraint as much as exploration, and discernment about what supports integration versus what amplifies experience without structure.
This creates a therapeutic space that is steady, reliable, and responsive.
What this work is not
It may be helpful to say what this work does not aim to do.
It is not about quick fixes, performance optimisation, or symptom suppression. It does not promise certainty, resolution, or permanent harmony. And it does not bypass difficulty in the name of insight or growth.
Instead, it supports a gradual movement toward greater coherence, agency, and responsibility — lived in the context of your real life.
How this connects to the wider work
This way of working is grounded in Psychosynthesis and informed by long-term engagement with contemplative and depth-oriented approaches. It is particularly suited to people navigating inner conflict, burnout, or periods of psychological, spiritual, or existential intensity.
If you’d like to explore the ideas that inform this work in more depth, you may find it helpful to read:
→ Integration After Intensity
→ Self-Leadership, Will, and Choice
Or, if you’re more interested in whether this work fits you: